The Nkoya men say that the root is used because it is so firmly fixed in the his first wife of half the married life), to have extramarital love-affairs, to repudiate a if she wants to divorce, and has hardly any possibilities to thrash her husband. So taking up with a successful, privileged, married older man seems to be her way of having "Morals are .. But she really wants to be a writer, she also wants to live, really live. . It is not the typical affair book and I have to say I like her writing. Of course, everyone wants to find their "person" in life, a partner who has seen you at your worst and best and still loves and accepts you.